Rock Solid Sleep in the Crib

Joe put together his crib so Andy moved out of his almost outgrown bassinet to his real bed. I was anticipating a few days of long hard cries for adjusting to the new bed and his own room, but much to my surprise, Andy adapted right away. He woke up once the first night, and then I learned he could go back to sleep on his own quickly the next night so didn't go in any more. He has been sleeping through the night for the last few weeks. Sometimes he wakes up once or twice around 12 or 1, but can always go back to sleep after a few minutes of crying. Sometimes he wakes up between 6 and 7am then I'd feed him and he goes back to sleep for a couple more hours usually. I get up to pump a couple times at night to make him a couple extra meals for the next day (supply is all caught up with demand now). He seems to sleep comfortably on a real mattress: all stretched out (see pictures).

Solids and Waste

The recent addition of real food seems to have created some changes in the waste department. Andy used to go about once (or 2 closely timed ones) every 5-7 days. But he just had 4 poops in 3 days here! Thursday was day 7, so he went as usual. It was a small hard one and that usually means there is more coming. So more came on Friday, but twice! Another small hard ball in the morning, and then a medium soft in the evening. Usually the bigger one is the runy yellow, but this time it was soft solid. Finally came the real one on Saturday, the big runny yellow one from drinking milk.
As he eats more, he's producing more waste too. I guess we'll have to add this to his 6-mo changes :-)

Sleep Training

This has been a difficult task, but I'm finally reaping the fruit of it. Now that he's trained, I don't have to nurse him to sleep, resulting immobilized since he's sleeping in the lap, and actually have a little free time at night. He sleeps in longer stretches too (4 hours) so we all get more rest.

After the 4 month checkup, the doctor said it's time for him to learn how to sleep on his own. I did it half way by transferring him to his bassinet after he's sound asleep from nursing. Well, it only made me more exhausted since now I had to wait long enough for him to be in a deep sleep state before transferring. And half the time he woke up right away so I had to feed again as that's the only way to sooth him. There were nights I was getting up 5-6 times with <1.5 hour sleep per lag, and the next day he would be cranky too from not enough sleep.

After the 6 month checkup, a second try at sleep training. We learned it is beneficial for him to develop the association of his own bed and sleep and that he is mature enough to sooth himself instead of relying on nursing all the time at this stage. It was very hard to bear his 45 minutes long crying the first time. But once it actually stopped and he was asleep, it felt like a miracle. Then the next feeding came 4 hours later, and this time I made sure he was awake when put into his bassinet. He made a small cry and was out again. The next day was easier, he didn't cry much at bed time or night feedings. After a couple days of training, he got it. Next was to train his napping. We don't force him to nap at regular times, but tried to make him fall asleep in his bed when he is tired. It was met with more resistance than night training sometimes. Maybe he's not tired enough at times.

I learned the key to sleep training is not to pick him up once he's put into his bed, as long as you are sure he's well fed and needs sleep now. Otherwise he'll only cry longer the next time supposedly. To my surprise, babies seem to learn much quicker than expected. The cry time reduces dramatically after he falls asleep on his own the first time. The other key is reinforcement. Keep up the routine and he will go to bed without a struggle habitually.

The next step in training is to eliminate the night feedings. Will wait on that until we are sure he can eat enough during the day.

6mo Observations

Andy had his 6 month check up on Wednesday, April 9. His new stats:
13 lb 5 oz,
25.5 in,
head circumference 43.3 cm.
Some recent pictures here.

There are some visible differences around the 6 month mark.
- He's feeding less frequently now, content with 2-3 hours in between instead of the 1.5 hours before. So he has more leisure time to explore.
- He's got better hand coordination now. He enjoys grabbing laundry when I fold.
- He makes his intention more clearly known. For example, he makes high pitched scream for things he wants (food mainly), and holds his arms out when he wants to be picked up.
- The most exciting difference, is that he is becoming more responsive to learning now. I showed him the talking blinking number buttons on the Exersaucer, and he just watched wide eyed, too timid to try. I turned around to make tea leaving him in the saucer. And guess what I heard? "Five", "Three", ... The talking buttons! It's like that with the jumpster Irene gave us too. I helped him bounce around and danced with him. He smiled and giggled. When I stopped, he started his own dance in it.

4 - 5 months

Hope some pictures makes up for the tardiness of the post :-).

2/23 Saturday
We went to Rebecca's baby shower this afternoon. Andy behaved for the first part. Then he started to throw a fit, crying from the top of his lung, and could not be soothed even with food. Shelly came to rescue. She sang and danced Andy to sleep! I was quite amazed by her bag of soothing tricks. She said her Sophie was a fussy baby so she developed lots of tricks.
We accidentally overcooked the diapers (with candies) in the microwave for the "Smelling the diapers" game if you are wondering about the smoke in the pictures.

03/2008
Andy had lots of grandparents visiting in March. Grandma and Granpa Ravet came to see him for the first time in early March. They had a good bonding time with Andy.

My dad, Grandpa Su came to visit later. He was a little intimidated by the idea of carrying Andy
before coming (he has bad back), but got a handle on things very quickly. Dad discovered a new calming technique: wheeling him back and forth in the living room. He took Andy out for walks whenever it's nice out. Sometimes he would call me with Andy's "singing in plein aire" on their end of the line. He devised a workout routine for Andy that involves arm strength training (crawling) and some standing up. By the end he was so attached to Andy that he even called us during the day wanting to hear Andy singing the first day after leaving.

5 month observations:
- He got his passport in February (and the passport photo already seems outdated).
- Strong neck. He puts his arms out on the big pillow for push up and holds his head up high.
- He spits a lot (just saliva), like a baseball player.
- He gradually develops some hand gripping power. he curiously examines his hands often.
- He wants a lot more attention now, wants people to play with.
- He is always curious: he enjoys looking around and can focus for short time periods. He becomes aware of the surroundings a lot more. I used to be able to feed him anywhere. But now he gets very distracted if I talk while feeding him.
- We started giving him spoonfuls of soup at dinners once in a while. He really likes the taste of real food.

Say Yi1

I often play this game of holding out fingers and saying each number from one to four (in Chinese). As I held out my index finger and said Yi1 slowly, for the first time, he slowly extended out his right index finger from the little fist just now. We repeated the game a few more times reliably. It 's such an exciting moment for me. I tried to capture it on camera: pictures here.

We tried other numbers, he attempted to open more fingers but the hand coordination wasn't there yet.

4 month checkup

Andy had his 4-mo checkup on Friday:
11 lb 11 oz.
24 in.
42 cm head.
Doc was happy with his growth. He was a trooper when it came to shots despite his crankiness of getting out of bed early and hadn't had his breakfast.